Co-parenting with my ex is impossible because of her mood swings

DEAR DEIDRE: CO-PARENTING our son with my ex-wife is impossible with her mood swings.

One minute we’re on good terms, the next she is threatening me with a custody battle.

We split up three years ago after 12 years of marriage. We’d argue non-stop and had both been unhappy for a while.

She’s 38, I’m 39 and our son is seven.

It was an amicable split and we agreed to co-parent as much as possible, sorting childcare away from court.

But her mood swings make it difficult to stick to any kind of routine.

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Sometimes she acts sickeningly sweet, offering me extra time with our son. I’ve clocked this is usually when she has plans.

Other days she’ll refuse to open the front door and tells me I have to go through the courts to see him.

It’s really upsetting for our son, as he never knows how long it will be until he sees me again.

DEIDRE SAYS: Your ex-wife might still be struggling with the idea that your marriage is over and lashing out.

But that doesn’t take away from the fact that she is being selfish and not thinking about your child.

He should be the priority for both of you, as it’s the kids who suffer most when a couple splits. My support pack When Parents Fall Out explains the impact this will be having on him.

Reach out to Families Need Fathers (, 0300 0300 363), who can advise you on possible next steps.

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