My partner is hiding our lesbian relationship from her family

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN it suits her, my lover wants me. But where her family are involved, she asks me to hide away.

Her adult children know about me but they disapprove because we’re gay.

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I’m a woman of 35 and she’s 55.

We have lived together for two years but if her family comes to visit, I have to wait in the bedroom until they’ve gone.

I’ve even spent nights in my car, freezing cold while her son and his wife dragged the evening out.

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They make her promise not to see me – and she tells them we are over so she can see her grandkids.

She asked me to marry her two years ago but I can’t see that happening.

DEIDRE SAYS: She is living a lie and you are suffering as a result. Why should you leave your home just so her family can visit?

If she doesn’t want you meeting them, she can see her family somewhere else.

Explain you feel upset that her family will not accept you and if she is not prepared to make a stand, perhaps this relationship is not right for you.

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