Woman says mother washing partner's laundry could be a dealbreaker

Woman reveals she’s thinking of ending her relationship after finding out his mother washes his laundry weekly – so, would it be a deal breaker for YOU?

  • Anonymous woman, who lives in the UK, is thinking of ending her relationship
  • Said her partner works 40 hours a week and relies on mum to wash his laundry
  • Posting on Mumsnet, said he is physically and mentally cable of doing it himself
  • Many responses said they would be put off dating someone who relies on parent

A woman has revealed she’s thinking about ending her relationship because her boyfriend relies on his mother to do his laundry.

Posting anonymously on Mumsnet, the woman, who lives in the UK, explained the man she’s dating works a standard 40 hours a week and lives by himself.

However, she is having second thoughts about their relationship after finding out that he takes his laundry to be washed at his mother’s house once a week.

Many commenters agreed they wouldn’t want to date a man who relies on his mother to do his washing, however others said it wouldn’t be a deal breaker unless she becomes overly involved in the relationship. 

A woman, who lives in the UK, has sparked a debate about dating someone who relies on their parents to wash their laundry (file image)

‘I’ve met a guy: he seems OK, he works but the standard 40 hours a week and lives alone. He takes his washing round to his mum’s once a week.

‘I don’t know but the thought of a grown man having his mum wash his dirty underwear turns me off. Turns me off to the point I ‘m thinking of calling it a day.

‘Now I KNOW it’s my right to call it a day for whatever reason but I’m interested if this would be a dealbreaker for you lot, too or am I being unreasonable?’

She added a few disclaimers, saying that the man is ‘mentally and physically capable’ of doing his own laundry, and that she’s not talking about ‘borrowing her machine if his is too small for, by way of example, a duvet’.

The user also admitted she would feel differently about a man with a very busy job using a laundry service or hiring  maid because he can afford it.  

Posting on Mumsnet, the woman explained her partner takes his clothes to be washed by his mother once a week 

A flood of replies to the thread agreed with the woman’s decision to end the relationship. 

One person wrote: ‘Yes it would put me off. Even if the mum is alone and it gives her a ‘purpose”, it’s still a strange dynamic that I wouldn’t want to be involved in. 40 hours a week gives him plenty of time to stick a couple of washes on.’

‘Urgh no. To me it screams ‘overly-involved mother’. Which is hideous. I have a friend who is like this and his mother is far, far too attached. As an aside, she cries a lot and I think emotionally blackmails him. It’s a strange dynamic and he is understandably still single at 41,’ another said.   

A third added: ‘My son has been doing his own laundry since his early teens, so yes, that would really put me off!’

Responses to the thread admitted they would be put off dating a man who is unable to wash his own laundry 

However, one admitted they wouldn’t end the relationship unless their partner’s mother is getting involved in multiple aspects, saying: ‘Of itself it wouldn’t bother me. But I’d be wanting to know what else does she do for him? 

‘Is he just a man-child who can’t look after himself and needs everything doing or does she do it so he goes round twice a week, so she knows she’s going to see him.’ 

Another wrote: ‘It would certainly be off putting for me. If he was fantastic in every other way it may not be a deal breaker, but I’d have to wonder what his views on women/ women’s roles are if he still gets his mum to wash his clothes’   

A third said: ‘Does his home have a functioning washing machine that he could use? To be honest, when my daughter and her partner visit I do their washing for them, underwear and everything. I have no idea why this might be weird or skanky.’ 

Others claimed they wouldn’t end the relationship, unless their partner’s mother became overly involved 

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